To ring or not to ring

Times have changed and many couples are living together, buying a house, settling down and raising families. All without officially getting married. To many it is just a paper and really n difference. Maybe just an added expense. Maybe an event they have no time to plan or afford to participate in. Even though they do not officially tie the knot they still appear to be married right down to the ring.

Whatever way you live your life with the one you love is up to you. Some may say the ceremony of marriage is outdated. Maybe old fashioned. Others, dream of it since childhood and budget for it. They make it  goal and life would just not be right with out the official day. Maybe it is religion, maybe fantasy. Maybe it is just wanting to be one with their soul mate. Either way, many years of love and happiness awaits them all.

Now the question I ask is, to ring or not to ring?

There was a time you could tell somebody was taken or married by the band on their wedding finger. Now with many not getting married, do they wear a ring? Even those who are officially married do not wear them.

My parents have been together for almost 40 years. My mom wears her wedding rings every day.  As she gets older her fingers would swell and change. She has taken them in and had them resized. My dad, he is not a jewelry guy and he does not have a wedding band, but if he did he would not wear it.  Yet many of my uncles do. So I can not say it is a generation thing.

For people my age (mid thirties) times are changing. I have rings but often do not wear them unless dressing up and going out. For me it is one more thing to worry about losing. Something to watch over and stress about keeping good. Having kids and cleaning I can not see myself wearing them as much as I would like. But on the other hand, I have had people assume I am single because I do not have a ring on my finger.

wedding ring or wedding band is a metal ring indicating the wearer is married. Depending on the local culture, it is worn on the base of the right or the left ring finger. The custom of wearing such a ring has spread widely beyond its origin in Europe. Originally worn by wives only in the United States, wedding rings became customary in that country for both husbands and wives during the 20th century

Last time I had lunch with my oldest daughter she mentioned the idea of getting married to her boyfriend. Her thoughts were very traditional and she said it would be when they are done school. She said it would be in a couple of years and that she would need to look at traditional Mens wedding bands for him as well. It is going to be wonderful planning it out with her nd having her dreams fulfilled.

So do you wear your wedding ring? Why or why not?



  1. We're finally deciding to take that plunge, even though we've lived together and live as if we're already married. I intend to wear my rings. I already have three fashion rings that I wear regularly, so I'll just be adding another to them.

  2. Teresa M. says

    I don't wear a wedding ring simply because I am not married. I had Sara when I was 25 and it has always been just the 2 of us. I wore my Mum's wedding band when I was expecting because I found that my ring finger was the first thing people would look at after taking a look at my tummy 🙂

  3. I am married, but don't wear a ring normally. It seems my ring has shrunk with the birth of my 2 kiddos 😛

  4. I stopped wearing my rings after my oldest was born (didn't fit and I didn't want to resize) then when my youngest was born I was able to wear my wedding ring again, but not my e-ring. Hubby has a wedding ring (not traditional at all) and he wears it if we are going out for dinner or to a wedding etc. Otherwise, he works with machinery and it really isn't safe to wear
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  5. Yes I wear my wedding ring. First because I love it and second because I am proud that I am married to my husband.

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