What you need to know about Dating in yours 40s

Dating in your teens was social experimentation for most people. Dating in your 20s was a way to start to learn more about yourself and what you wanted in a partner. Dating in your 30s was when you began to narrow down the search and when most people settle down. But now you are in your 40s and still dating. Does that mean you have failed? What if you are starting over? What do you need to know about dating in your 40s that is so different from dating in your 20s or 30s? A lot, actually!

dating in your 40s

Slow down
Many people see the number on their birthday cakes rising and panic. They think they must find a mate RIGHT NOW and that can lead to some pretty bad decision making. Realize love has no time limit, and rushing into things can actually set you back and take you farther from the person you need to be with.
Enjoy your security
In your 20s you didn’t know who you were. In your 30s you were probably working on a career. Now, in your 40s, you know who you are, what you are about, and you probably have a killer career to go with it all. Let your sense of security be a grounding force for you and enjoy your dates knowing that even if it doesn’t work out, you are still in a great position in life.
Be honest with your dates
If you want marriage, tell your date that. If kids are off the table for you, let them know. While you have plenty of time, you don’t want to waste your time- or their time! Be open, up front, and honest in all things. You have earned that and so have they.
Act your age
This seems like terrible advice to some people, but trying to be someone or something you’re not is detrimental to what you are trying to accomplish, Unless it is your personality to act like a drama-obsessed 16 year old, don’t do it! With age comes maturity. Don’t, however, think this means you can’t have fun! You just don’t have to be immature to do it.
Get help
Ask your friends if they can assist you on finding a good date. Ask them for advice on what you should wear. Ask them to tag along on a blind date to make it less awkward. By the time you are in your 40s you have probably amassed a strong group of close friends that will help you- so let them. It will make thins a lot easier and a lot less stressful.

Think about your children
Would they approve of the person you are seeing? While it isn’t always about them, sometimes you do need to consider how your new flame could harm your relationship with your children- or help it! Don’t forget them when going out on dates.
Have fun
You have earned it. Have fun no matter what, even if the date is a flop. Remember- you are still a great catch and you can always go on another date. What you cannot do, however, is allow yourself to get brought down by sadness at a failed date. That helps no one!


  1. I can’t imagine dating at my age. It was so hard when I was young I think I would just pass if anything ever happen to my DH!!

  2. Even though these are all great tips,i never want to have to use them.I am so happy with my darling hubby

  3. Doris Calvert says

    In your 20’s it wasn’t hard to meet people and men because all your friends are single and you all go out join clubs, play sports etc, I would not know even where to begin ig I had too, but in my early 50:s now I think I would stay single now, to many freaks out there and it would be hard to get used to a new guy after 30 years together.

  4. yep, in my 50’s and I think I’d take singlehood over trying to find someone if my husband passed away

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