Dating in 2016: A Lot Has Changed

Dating isn’t always easy; and when you have children, it can be even more difficult. Carving out time for fun, the hassle of finding a reliable sitter, and issues like safety can make some single moms give up the dating game before they’ve even started. Thankfully, with the following tips, single moms can enjoy dating, while raising a family and keeping everyone safe and happy. 

Be Yourself

If you’re a single mom and new on the dating scene, honesty, especially about who you are and what you want out of life, is always the best policy. Pretending to be anything other than yourself is a huge waste of time, not to mention exhausting and self-defeating. Also, it’s important to be up front with your dates about issues like marriage, children and what you need in a relationship. Be confident in yourself and your life choices, and the right partner will come along. 

Be Safe

For single moms, safety is a major issue. And in the age of internet dating, it can be difficult to know what you’re getting into with potential dates. Thankfully, tips like the following can help you protect yourself and your children from danger:

  • Always meet in public places. Until you get to know someone, public dates are a must. For those first few encounters, meet (instead of having a date pick you up at home) at restaurants, coffee shops and other safe locations. 
  • Do background checks. While online dating can come with risks, you can use technology to your advantage. For example, you can search for criminal history online, perform background checks and take other measures to ensure your personal safety. 
  • Use Reputable Dating Sites. There are tons of dating sites out there, and, unfortunately, all are not created equal. Before signing up for an online dating service, do your research and make sure you’re using a safe, reputable site. 
  • Consider group dates. One-on-one dates may be more romantic, but group or double dates can be just as fun as they are safe. Enlist the help of trusted friends, set up a group dinner or outing, and save those one-on-one dates for later. 

Rethink Dating

When we think of dating, most of us picture candlelit dinners, dancing and other romantic scenarios. However, for busy single moms, the word “date” can take on a whole new meaning. For example, a quick afternoon stroll, a meetup at a local cafe or a Sunday brunch can be just as enjoyable as a romantic dinner, without the time and effort required of a traditional date. So, instead of stressing over the “perfect” date, make the most of those small chunks of free time, and consider “mini” dates during the week. 

Compartmentalize 

When it comes to casual dating, it may be a good idea to keep your personal life separate from your home life. Children often have a hard time with the idea of their parents dating, and sheltering them form your personal life can help them avoid feelings of anger and frustration. However, if and when things get serious with a suitor, take your time, be patient, and let your kids gradually get used to your new partner and lifestyle.   

Check Your Expectations, and Just Have Fun

First and foremost, dating is supposed to be fun. And one surefire way to ruin a good time is expecting too much from a particular date or experience. By learning to relax, go with the flow, and genuinely enjoy yourself, you’ll find that dating as a single mom isn’t so bad, after all. In fact, you might just have the time of your life, and meet your dream date in the process! 

Dating in 2016

Comments

  1. kristen visser says:

    check your expectations is a good one! Don’t settle for just anyone if they are not going to make you happy or be the person you would like around you and your family

  2. To be honest I’m happy that I am married, I think the dating scene is far scarier today then it was thirty odd years ago. At the same time, you can certainly find out a lot more about people with Facebood and such.

  3. Cheryl Grandy says:

    I’m glad not to be dating at this time in my life. I definitely agree that group dates and dates in public places are the way to go until you really know someone.

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